From our observation, singles within the church often experience feelings of loneliness, particularly as many of their peers have moved into the stage of marriage and starting families. While the value of community remains undeniable and transcends life stages, there's an inherent sense of isolation when you find yourself among few others in your age group who are also single. The significance of having fellow believers to relate to and share community with becomes especially apparent during periods of singleness.

We've discovered that organizing events tailored for singles not only offers opportunities to potentially find romantic partners but also fosters the development of meaningful, godly relationships within one's own city. It's been inspiring to witness numerous romantic connections and even marriages emerge from these gatherings.

By creating spaces where singles can connect, we aim to address the sense of disconnect and provide avenues for building supportive relationships that align with kingdom principles. These mixers serve as more than just opportunities for romantic pursuits; they're platforms for fostering genuine connections and strengthening the fabric of the church community.

We provide light refreshments and a charcuterie board to graze.

Both men and women are encouraged to bring three sticky notes, each featuring an open-ended question, for an engaging game during the event.

In addition to the sticky notes, men are requested to prepare 5-10 "flirty business cards." These cards, whether on sticky notes or cut 3x5 index cards, should include their name, phone number, and social media handles (or email if social media isn't applicable). Termed as "flirty business cards," men are informed that these cards serve as a means to express interest in seeing someone again. The men are encouraged to ask a woman they are conversing with if they can offer one of their cards, expressing their desire to meet again.

Nope! You can wear whatever makes you feel most comfortable and confident!

From our experience of running dozens of events, the majority of attendees at our events are sincere Christians who are looking for partners who share their faith. We understand the importance of maintaining the integrity of our gatherings, and we have implemented several vetting methods to ensure that. One way we do this is by openly communicating our Biblical values in our marketing efforts. By being transparent about our beliefs and expectations, we attract individuals who are genuinely interested in pursuing meaningful relationships based on those values. Additionally, we have a ticket price structure in place that acts as a deterrent to those who are seeking casual encounters. This helps create an environment where participants are more likely to be genuinely committed to the pursuit of long-term, faith-based relationships.

It's important to acknowledge that thoroughly vetting every individual who attends our events is not practical. Instead, we believe in empowering adult men and women to exercise their own discernment. The Bible itself emphasizes the importance of personal discernment in navigating relationships and warns against false prophets and deceitful individuals. To support individuals in developing these discernment skills, we provide education and guidance. Our founder, Mel, offers coaching to help participants safely evaluate potential partners. This way, individuals can make informed decisions about who they choose to pursue relationships with. We understand that church leaders have a responsibility to guide and protect their congregants. However, it's important to strike a balance between safeguarding individuals and providing opportunities for them to explore and develop meaningful connections. Marriage is a deep-seated desire for many singles within our congregations, and we believe it's essential to create avenues for them to pursue companionship and growth.

Glad you asked! Here at IYKYK Dating we ask the men to boldly make the first move by giving a woman a "flirty" business card as we like to call them if he'd like to continue to get to know the woman. (We can make the cards for you or you can make them yourself just write your name, number & social media handle on a sticky note or on something else creative.

In return, we ask the woman to boldly accept or decline the card. If she accepts, we require that she reach out to him to either continue getting to know him or to tell him she is no longer interested WITHIN 48 hours (aka The 48 Hour Policy). By committing to this ticket, you are agreeing to the 48-hour policy and understand if a guy gives you their card and you accept it, you will be expected to uphold the 48-hour policy. On the flip side, if a man hands out a card, he MUST respond to the woman within 48 hours as well when she reaches out.

We are passionate about changing dating culture- specifically "ghosting" culture. We want to use IYKYK Dating as a way to help people grow, especially in the areas of communication & integrity. We believe our yes should be yes and our no should be no. We could go on and on about why we have chosen to have this policy, but we hope you understand we have thought through the best way to go about this and we take this very seriously. Remember: you can decline the card in person - this is still honest communication, just do it in a loving way. :)

We do not offer refunds and all sales are final. If you are unable to make it to the event, you may send your ticket to someone of the same gender but they must have the ticket in hand (or on their phones) for us to scan upon check-in. 

Beginning in 2021, we've hosted dozens of these events in the following locations:

• San Diego

• Orange County

• Los Angeles

• Sacramento

• San Jose

• Nashville

• Dallas

• Houston

• Austin

• Phoenix

We want to expand into other cities too! If you'd like to host an event in the nearest large city to you, email us at iykykdating@gmail.com with the subject line [City] - Hosting Event Position.

While we're eager to host mixers across various age ranges, we've noticed the highest demand among individuals in their 20s and 30s. Our events cater to this demographic, typically targeting ages ranging from around 23ish to 39ish. By focusing on this specific age group, we aim to create an inclusive environment where young adults can connect, share experiences, and potentially form meaningful relationships.