Mixer FAQs

Mixers are large, fun gatherings of Christian singles (usually 50 - 150 people) designed to help you meet, mingle, and connect in a relaxed but intentional way. Unlike speed dating, there aren’t timed rotations. Instead, we guide you through fun, structured icebreaker games that keep conversations flowing.

Picture this: a room full of Christian singles from churches all over your city, laughing, chatting, and connecting without wondering if someone’s actually looking to date, because everyone here is! You’ll leave encouraged, with new friendships, and maybe even a spark of something more.

Yes! Both men and women should bring three sticky notes or notecards, each with one open-ended question written down to spark conversations (we will use these for a game later in the night).

In addition, men are asked to prepare 5-10 "Flirty Business Cards".

Flirty Business Cards make it easy for men to let a woman know they’d love to take her out on a date after the event and get to know her better.

What They Are: Small cards (3x5 index cards, sticky notes or something creative the man makes) with the man’s name, phone number, email and social media (if he has it).

How They’re Used: During the event, men are encouraged to offer a Flirty Business Card to any women they’d like to take on a date to get to know better. 

Want To Skip the Hassle of Making Your Own? For only $20, your Flirty Business Cards will be designed, printed, and ready to go when you arrive!

At IYKYK Dating, we encourage men to boldly make the first move- without putting women in the awkward spot of giving out their personal contact information. Instead, men can hand a woman they meet at the event a Flirty Business Card to let her know they’d like to take her on a date after the event.

If she accepts, it’s her turn to boldly reach out within 48 hours- either to continue getting to know him or to kindly let him know she’s not interested. (Ladies, you’re welcome to use a Google Voice number or reply by email if you’d prefer not to share your personal phone number.)

On the flip side, if a man hands out a card, he MUST also respond within 48 hours when she reaches out.

If we find that after giving or accepting a card there was no follow-through within 48 hours, here’s what happens:

• You must reach out to the person, apologize, and ask for forgiveness (can I get an amen for Biblical reconciliation?)

• You may also be asked to pay a “bail” fee (equivalent to a regular ticket, $75) before being able to participate in future events.

This isn’t about punishment. It’s about fostering accountability, honesty, and a culture where men and women both feel honored and respected.

We are passionate about changing dating culture- specifically the “ghosting” culture. We believe Christian dating should look different. That means saying “yes” when you mean yes, and no when you mean “no” (Matthew 5:37). Ghosting has no place here.

This policy helps men and women grow in communication, honesty, and integrity. Ladies, please know that declining a card in person is completely fine- that’s still honest communication. Just do it in a kind and loving way. :)

And if you accept a card, honor the commitment to follow up within 48 hours. This way, everyone leaves feeling valued and respected.

Nope! Just wear something that makes you feel confident and comfortable.

From our experience of running dozens of events, the majority of attendees at our events are sincere Christians who are looking for partners who share their faith. We understand the importance of maintaining the integrity of our gatherings, and we have implemented several vetting methods to ensure that. One way we do this is by openly communicating our Biblical values in our marketing efforts. By being transparent about our beliefs and expectations, we attract individuals who are genuinely interested in pursuing meaningful relationships based on those values. Additionally, we have a ticket price structure in place that acts as a deterrent to those who are seeking casual encounters. This helps create an environment where participants are more likely to be genuinely committed to the pursuit of long-term, faith-based relationships.

It's important to acknowledge that thoroughly vetting every individual who attends our events is not practical. Instead, we believe in empowering adult men and women to exercise their own discernment. The Bible itself emphasizes the importance of personal discernment in navigating relationships and warns against false prophets and deceitful individuals.

We provide light refreshments and a charcuterie board to graze.

All sales are final, and all tickets are non-refundable.

If you can’t make it, you may transfer your ticket to someone of the same gender. They’ll just need to bring the ticket (printed or digital) to check in.

Yes! Due to the uniqueness of this event and the importance of balanced gender ratios, we’ve built a system to ensure an equal number of men and women (minimum ratio of 20:20).

Here’s how it works:

• At the latest, you’ll receive an email the day before the event letting you know if you’ve received an official “entry ticket.”

• If you don’t, don’t give up! You can still increase your chances by inviting Christian friends of the opposite gender. This opens up more spots for your gender.

• If we can’t secure you an entry ticket due to ratio limits, your payment will be refunded.

Please note: while we carefully manage ticketing, we can’t control day-of attendance, so slight imbalance may still occur.

IYKYK Dating events may be photographed and/or filmed. By attending, you consent to the use of these photos and videos in our marketing and promotional materials. No names, contact details, or other personal information will ever be shared. If you have any concerns, please contact us directly at iykykdating@gmail.com.